Monday, June 13, 2016

Cruel Coincidence

I remember like it was yesterday. Austin and I were in our backyard, watering our plants, getting ready to meet up with our best friends who were visiting from out of town. We were wrapping things up when Austin got a call from his dad Rex. I didn't pay much attention because we talk to our parents all the time. We knew Tearnie and Connor were on their One Year Anniversary trip so when I had heard him on the phone mentioning her name I didn't think anything of it. Austin hung up the phone and just kind of stood there quietly for a while. I was about to walk inside our house when Austin grabbed my hand and told me that Tearnie was in a boating accident. He started to cry and I was so confused. He went on to say that Connor was struck by lightning and passed away.
I lost it. My mind went blank. My body numb.
I remember collapsing on the grass and sobbing. Austin pulled me up, we both got in the car and headed to Arkansas. 

 After a three hour drive that felt like eternity, we finally made it to the hospital. We immediately went to where Tearnie and the rest of the family were. Austin took his sister into his arms and just held her. Looking back I am so glad we went to the hospital because it was evident how much she needed one of her brothers there to comfort her. Their sibling bond is so strong. 
In the hospital we said our last goodbyes to Connor. He looked so peaceful. The spirit was so strong in the room, we could all feel his presence.

The next few weeks all of our {the family's} days/nights were spent with Tearnie. Trying our best to comfort her and just do whatever we could to help this horrible situation a little less painful. 
The funeral was absolutely perfect. So many people attended from all different backgrounds, it was really neat to see. It just showed how much Connor loved others and lived his life to the fullest. He was so passionate about everything he did. He loved the people around him and loved life fiercely. I think we can all let him be our inspiration and follow in his example.

I think we can all agree on the fact that life isn't fair sometimes. We may not always understand why things happen the way they do. Why Heavenly Father would take Connor away from his beautiful wife, family and friends, but I have faith that Heavenly Father must have needed him more than we know, and that someday, we will finally see the big picture and understand. I also have faith that we will see Connor again. He may not be here on this earth anymore but his is still living. We will see him again, I have no doubt.

And to Tearnie- you are the strongest person I have ever known. To think about how much you have accomplished in a years time with so many trials, is incredible to say the least. I have no idea how you've done it, but I definitely look up to you as a role model.

Connor had a way of lighting up a room wherever he was. He made everyone laugh. He was hilarious! One of my favorite memories was when he made me cry my eyes out in Steak n Shake because I was laughing so hard at him. AND almost peed my pants in a restaurant in Kansas City because he was just so dang goofy! I am also glad we had one last family dinner with him. He pulled a prank on Austin with his old truck he had just got. And also stopping every 20 minutes on our road trip because he kept having to use the bathroom! I think I said "Connor STOP PEEING!" About a million times on that trip lol These are the kinds of memories we need to keep of him. 
He has such a special spirit. One in a million. I can't wait to see him again someday. I feel honored to call him family. Love you CaCa.

{March 29,1993 - June 13th,2015}

1 comment:

  1. WOW. I just cried my eyes out. This story and message, although so sad and tragic is also so amazing and inspirational. I've lost a family member and a friend within the past several years through sudden, tragic accidents, so this message hits even closer to home. Thank you for sharing this. I loved your words. :-) - Kassia